Pure innocence and joy radiating from these photos right?……
Well this is after sitting in the car for an hour while she had a temper tantrum that was hardly provoked. This smile is after tears from both her an myself. parenting is HARD! No matter how easy some may make it look.We ALL definitely have moments that we feel we are failing at a job that will one day have a huge impact on society.
Kids cry,scream and express their un censored and unfiltered emotions,they do this without thinking because it is THEIR TRUTH. Us as adults we typically think of what we are going to say and the ways that it can be taken once it leaves our lips( most of us during day to day discussions.) Young children do not,they are blunt and honest,this is great but also incredibly frustrating when out in public or when you would just like for the moment to not go awry. I myself can admit that I have and still struggle with this “truth”Laelah projects be it physically or vocally. It has gotten better and worse at the same time as she has gotten older.
When she was a baby Laelah would whine or cry when she needed to be changed,or maybe if she was sleepy. Now she can potty like a big girl and she accepts when she is tired so she will just ask to take lay down;but now when she requests something and I say “no” she says things like “but I want it.” If I ask her to head upstairs so that we can get dressed she will say “but I don’t want to get dressed Mom.” Or even if I place her into time out she sometimes yells from anger or deeply exhales expressing her annoyance.
My struggle is honestly trying to figure out the correct method of parenting. Should I spank her,sit her in time out,take away toys or just ignore bad behavior?
Parenting is full of conundrums,I am slowly realizing that every child is different, every situation is different and every parent is different! Adjustments will be constant throughout raising or little person. Personally I believe that it is vital to figure out what best suits your child as an individual at that particular time in their life. Also patience,patience,PATIENCE!!!! Patience is key, this is something that I have an incredibly hard time with. To be honest I had NO patience before I had Laelah,she helped me grow. With all that we do (and we do a lot) sometimes we can get irritated,annoyed but we have to try to project what we want them to absorb,peace,happiness.
It can be very difficult to not get upset when your child “expresses” them self freely in the middle of a grocery store by screaming. We just have to explain to them that it is not “okay” and continuously work with them on ways to positively express them selves. We must also remember that they are free to express themselves like anyone else but in the appropriate manner. (Takes time,and patience)
They are absorbing: side story!
-A few weeks ago we were all out and about, so we took a taxi back to the train station and Laelah wanted to give the taxi driver her fortune from her fortune cookie.(we had eaten at a Chinese restaurant earlier that night.) in order to get the driver’s attention Laelah called for him, but not with “hey”, Laelah called him by saying “hello, sir?” Once we reached our destination he helped us out of the car, and she said “Thank you so much sir, have a good night.”
My heart was filled with so much joy, the man expressed how blown away he was with how well-mannered and polite Laelah had been.
-Khalil and I are always asking Laelah to say “yes ma’am, no ma’am, yes sir and no sir.”We seem to always have to remind her, but to see her use it out in public without our advising made us feel like we were actually doing a great job at the parenting thing.
•Laelah tests me in every way imaginable every single day,but when she speaks and I see her little smile I feel like maybe I’m doing a pretty okay job and for that I think we both deserve a #coffebreak 🤗
•As parents we are definitely our worse critics,just remember we are all just doing the best we can for our little human(s).
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